“Completely exhausted by entire day of date – preparation. Being a woman is worse than being a farmer – there is so much harvesting and crop spraying to be done, legs to be waxed, underarms shaved, eyebrows plucked, feet pumiced, skin exfoliated and moisturized, spots cleansed, roots dyed, eyelashes tinted, nails filed, cellulite massaged, stomach muscles exercised. The whole performance is so highly tuned you only need to neglect it for a few days for the whole thing to go to seed. Sometimes I wonder what I would be like if left to revert to nature – with a full beard and handlebar moustache on each skin, Dennis Healey eyebrows, face a graveyard of dead skin cells, spots erupting, long curly fingernails like Struwelpeter, blind as bat and stupid runt of species as no contact lenses, flabby body flobbering around. Ugh, ugh. Is it any wonder girls have no confidence?
Bridget Jones Diary
I’m sure some women, girls, and ladies who have come across this part of Bridget Jones Diary could relate to this part of the story, unless of course, you are that particular female who isn’t bothered at all by these pre-date rituals. Like Bridget in the story, I’ve had my fair share of pre-date jitters. There was even a time when I had to go through more “rituals” than were mentioned just to look pleasing in general. It took me more than an hour or so. And of course, my date got really upset. It was inconsiderate of me, I admit. But that was long ago. My point is that, women sometimes stress themselves too much with how they appear, and that, I totally understand. Putting emphasis on how we present ourselves is something we can’t help. We definitely have to try to appear our best at all times; note: I used the word try.
In my opinion, putting effort in looking our best has its rewards. There’s (1) looking good, (2) feeling confident of ourselves, (3) we generally look pleasing to the eye, (4) we tend to illicit more positive reactions, and (5)we consequently inspire others.
There are also valid reasons why we should be mindful of how we present ourselves. The top three things that I mind are:
1 The first impression.While it is true that people should not “judge the book by its cover”, the first impression that people perceive about me sets the basis from which other notions and judgments relating to me are linked and reconciled with. There’s never a second chance to make a good first impression. That it is why I have to make the most out of that small, but crucial opportunity. I tend to “go big or go home.”
2 The representative image that people have of me. Each time I come to someone’s remembrance, what do they imagine? Do they think of the haggard person or the blooming one? I do want my visual image to be positively positive to other people.”
3 The succeeding thoughts after the first impression. Will I be judged accordingly? What will people base their judgments on? Of course, there’s that first impression to draw conclusions from. People tend to generalize quickly. It won’t hurt to make sure that people tread along a more desirable “generalization path”.”
Bridget Jones, I feel you, sister.